Hard Education

I was taught 
1.to  Work if I want to succeed.
2.to choose successful or positive minded friends
3.that  most of the time I should think about Work or what I'm doing.
4.If I don't have Focus in my life,my future will be a nightmare.
5.Trust is earned not given.
6.Don't oppose a boss, disagree  silently or give or extend your thinking.
7.Listen and Respect.
8.Do what will sustain now and the future.
9.The completed work should speak itself.
10.It is not  one EARNS,it is what one should GIVE.

The above teachings were accompanied.
-Harsh implementation.
-Not mistake is tolerated 
-Not time to be wasted 
-Strive to perfection 
-Have healthy balanced food
-Not church attendance,no Sunday food.

Funny part:
-I did  not see  as oppression.
-I saw  as the way of life.
-I accepted the Rules of the family.
-I accepted that every family have her own rules
(as much as every country is got the right to survive as long as their citizens are treated fairly and not killed)
-At that time  I did not feel any pain.

What were my Rights
-Rights to be educated.
-To mix  with the children with the same values.
-Not to drink alcohol.
-Not to use the vulgar language.
-Not to drive any car if I'm  under 20 years.

What I should not question or comment 
1.Why I was given  such a life.
2.Not to interfere  when the parents or adults even
peers when talking.
3.Why my father came late at our homestead.
4.Why sometimes I was woken  during the night,if
I made a mistake during the day.
5.Why sometimes I did not have the pocket money.

As I grew up,some rules were reviewed when I reached 20 years 

-I can talk to any peer group 
-I was not  more asked who I was with during the day 
-I was not send to the bar to buy liqour.
-I could help the neighbour voluntarily.
-I could have the two pairs of shoes one for the church and the other one for the school.
They must be all be black.
I was not allowed to wear  the sharp  pointed shoes because those ones were known as "satanic shoes".There was a belief that they will Pierce  other peer groups.

Was it a good or bad life?
The good side it
-Promoted independence
-Sustain what I had.
-Positive thinking
-who should be my friend?
-Expected the unexpected.Life surprises
-If I'm defeated with good,convincing arguement,I
should accept.I must not try the covert ways because it will end up in tears.

The bad side
-Anyone needs to be supported.I was not supported.
-There was nothing to give to the community
-I took everything negatively.
-Trust and confidence was not build
-I was rushed to do anything and hence I committed lot of mistakes.
-Hating myself.
-Always thinking about the past.
-Not easy to forgive.
-Fear instead of love.
-To be satisfied where I am.Not to try other ventures
-Wanted to be  moved by life,instead  I should move Life.

The painful side
-the damage  is moving  faster.
-Nightmares of my youth are coming from now and then.
-My health deteriorated.
I carried the damage,I never visited the Therapist or Medical doctor

Any lessons from  my story.
1.Just gauge  yourself.
It might happen  that your past  were not as much as mine or over mine.
2.What  about  your Relationships
Very few people who could adjust from the past life to the present.
3.Work Relationship 
The people  who you are working with are different from those who brought pain.
Don't avenge  to the wrong people even its a home business have  a future focus.
You must have/be
-work ethics.
-productive.
-Responsible to yourself and what you were given.

Don't take the past to the present because 
1.It destroys your performance at work.
2.It destroys your health.
3.It affects the other people at family and work life.

My friend at the University once told me:
As we are  going to start a new life the  community at work won't tolerate even a one mistake.Everything is punishable  at the same time.A week is too long.
-The Supervisor will give you an instruction ONCE.
You repeat the one mistakes you get a WARNING 
you repeat it,you will be DISMISSED.
-Whether you are aware or not aware the community will react violently because they believe that  you will do something worse,so you have to be stopped immediately right on the spot.
A touch is the MOVE.
They even say ONE CLAP, ONE KICK,ONE BULLET
will teach you a permanent lesson.


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