Friendship Tried and Tested

I know,perhaps you have a friend/relative who you  know him/her for many years.
Perhaps you have inherited him/her from your parents or from other circle of friends.

Before you can ask your friend,ask yourself first
1. What is the common bond between you and your friend?
2.Which benefits do you have  from your
hands? Is it mutual benefit or it is one sided?
3.Are you paying some "secret" which we don't know, which may result to capital 
punishment?

Now,it's a turn to ask your friend.
1.Tell me, why do you like me?
Possible responses:
Why do you ask me that question?
It is because we grew together.
We have a history together.

2.Your response:
There are many reasons.
Some of the reasons are
1.You understand me better.
2.We have the same interests.
3.You have guided me.
4.You shared good and bad times.

Why do you ask such information after a long time?
1.It is important to put the "litmus" test  the level of your Friendship.
2.Friends may help and after sometimes not you  being aware that your friend is helping your enemies to pull you down or use your problems against you as keep on telling your friend about all your problems including bedroom politics.

Why your friend act this way?
1.A Human being satisfies himself/herself
and that's a human nature.
2.If your friend is in trouble he/she will turn to you.Once your friend does not get the help then he/she will start counting all the help he/she gave it to you.Your friend will be grieved.
So,there are possibilities:
1.To pierce you.
2.To hurt you on the softest  part.

What can hurt your friend?
1.Not giving money at least lending it you
where  you must not expect any pay back.
According to your,he/she believes that you
owe him/her a lot.

2.Not to party with him/her always.
Otherwise you are his/her "property'

I have mentioned all the hurdles and the
challenges of friendship
How can you solve this situation?
1.Doing whatever alone is the best solution.There are things which are too personal like your family life,your achievements are best known to you only.

2.Define yourself the parameters of friendship.What kind of friendship  do you want?
Find the common cause like
1.Business.
2.Religion.
3.Sports ( be a player or spectator and it ends there.
4.Common Booze Drinkers of a certain type.
5.Band Singer/Music instrument player.
6.Finance  Boosting Group (which is dangerous)
Other  Distant Friendships
1.Wedding
2.Family  togetherness 
3.Funerals
4.Church Meetings
5.Fashion parades 
6.Limited Political friendships. 

Why do I call them Distant Friendship?
What I have learned in my life?
1.When you see your companion irregular,
the Friendship lasts.Is not what you want?
2.Enemity has no space.
3.There is an easy acceptance of both side.
4.The bond becomes stronger  because you contact through a phone.

Next time it will be Enemity



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